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Softness as a lifestyle. 

Living softly means you move through your day in a way that honors your values without guilt, without second-guessing, and without burning yourself out to prove your worth. 

That said, most Black women have built success through hustle, overperforming, and never saying no. And while this may have given you a certain lifestyle that looks good on the outside, it’s left you exhausted and depleted.

But there has been a shift and Black women as a collective are rejecting the status quo of hustle culture and toxic productivity. And that’s why you are reading this post, because you’ve decided that instead, what you want is a softer life - not to be confused with a smaller or less impactful life. Just less grind and more grace. 

And now that you’ve chosen presence over pressure, created the slow mornings, said the affirmations, and really tried to create your envisioned soft life. You’re confused because your life still doesn’t feel soft. Something isn’t working - even though the aesthetics may have gotten prettier. 

The Issue

The grind that built your success won’t sustain your softness.  

The infrastructure you're trying to build your soft life on (your beliefs, habits, standards, and routines) is still rooted in the grind - and that’s why it isn’t working. Softness isn’t just an aesthetic — it’s an energetic alignment. And re-aligning with your innate feminine power will require some habits to be unlearned, some relationships to fade, and some beliefs to crumble. 

You need to start at the beginning and reset the foundation. Because the new standard of strength doesn’t chase — it attracts.

You already have the vision of your soft life, so this is about making it real. A reset will help you rebuild your foundation so that you actually realign with your innate softness and live the soft life you desire.

The Reset

You’ve become fluent in fixing, providing, and showing up — but foreign to receiving, resting, and being seen. That’s not power; that’s performance. You need a reset that helps you rebuild the foundation so that softness isn’t just an “era” but a way of life. And that’s why I created the 5-Day Soft Life Reset - a free diagnostic tool that shows you exactly what current patterns and beliefs are sabotaging the soft life you are creating. 

This reset is meant to create awareness because awareness is the bridge between you and the life you want. You can’t fix what  you can’t see. Awareness is the first structural intervention to disrupt old patterns and create new ones. Seeing where you’ve allowed certain behaviors from yourself and others will make room for you to intentionally create the conditions that support your soft life from the inside out, not just aesthetically. 

The 5-Day Soft Life Reset shows you exactly where your soft life is breaking down by walking you through 5 core areas.

1. Clarity - do you know what living a soft life means to you? What does your version of a soft life look like?

2. Standards - without standards, your soft life collapses. 

3. Energy - rest is not earned, it’s your baseline. Are you just fitting rest into your life or have you made it a priority?

4. Routines - rigid routines are a product of hustle culture but a soft life needs structure too - not suffocating, but supportive.

5. Stability - is your soft life sustainable? Will it stand up to pressure?

By the end of this diagnostic you will have your soft life score that reveals which area needs your attention first. You will also get personalized recommendations to help you continue on your soft life journey. 

👉 Get the 5-Day Soft Life Reset here

In the next post

We’ll dive into the area of clarity and why it’s the first area to look at. If you’re unclear about what softness looks like for you, then you are just performing and creating someone else’s version of a soft life. And until you get clear on this very idea, you will continue to guess and reach and waste time doing things that don’t serve you or the life you are creating. 

Intentionally,

EB